• NOT BEING AWARE OF LESSONS IN MY PAST RELATIONSHIP? What lessons? There was nothing for me to learn. If there was, believe me, I'd know it. What happened was simple: I picked the wrong person. He has problems. I should've known better. It was a stupid choice. It was one of those things in life that shouldn't have been.
  
  
• NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO A FLAG DOWN ON THE RELATIONSHIP FIELD?. Her always jumping on me for little things? No big deal. Over-reactions like that are PMS or something. They'll go away...And I'm not in denial like this therapist said. She's crazy. She must be in denial about something. You can't believe everything a therapist says anyway.
  
  
• NOT TAKING CARE OF MYSELF PHYSICALLY? I have true love now. I am in heaven. My search is over. I found her. A done deal. But I'm not saying appearance is not important or anything like that, I just don't need to be as disciplined or keep up physically like I did before. A few inches here or there will not matter with the love we have. She loves me whatever way I am. Even if I don't exercise, am down, lazy, get upset and lose my job and self-respect, no problem, she loves me. I have the love of my life.
  
  
• NOT VALUING MY OWN NEEDS? A complete merger has taken place. This man and I are 'one'. I'm not single anymore so now it's about giving to my partner's every needs. 'Take care of my partner lst, me 2nd'. That's my motto. If my partner is happy, I am happy and my needs are being met. If he's unhappy, I'll make him happy. That's what a committed relationship is for. This proves we're into real love.
  
  
• NOT COMMUNICATING? WHEN THERE'S NO PROBLEM? I am not one to communicate. I keep things within me. I have always been that way. Siting down to discuss whether to have children, our spiritual beliefs, household organization, finances, feelings and the future? Is there a problem now? No there isn't. So why talk about it?
  
  
• NOT MAKING QUALITY TIME TOGETHER A PRIORITY? If we spend more time together, we'd be spending time we don't have. Plus, now that we have each other, we don't need to spend as much time as we used to spend together. And we'll have lots of time to spend together when we get more money which is why we must continue to push in our jobs and maintain our 70 hour work weeks. Otherwise we won't get our bonuses which means not enough money which means no time together and not much of anything.... Quality time? Quality time! We have quality. We're always doing errands and watching games on TV together.
  
  
  

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