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Scheduling Time Together

It is a time in our world when most everyone is busier than they have ever been or known anyone to be. We seem to all have a lot to accomplish but there are still only 24 hours in a day. There are more choices, more interests, more people and activities to balance than ever before. Nothing is wrong, it just it just means it takes focus and determination to keep it organized including scheduling time together in a marriage
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THOUGHTS ABOUT HOW TO FIND 'QUALITY TIME' TOGETHER:

  • If you are the type of couple where scheduling an appointment to be together feels restrictive and doesn't work, don't do it. You need spontaneity. You need the freedom of doing what you want when you want it. If your individual lives support this and your relationship needs are getting met, you have found what works..

  • For others, it is more freeing to have an ‘appointment’ because you want to know what to expect and when. It is important for you to know that at a certain time and place you can count on seeing your sweetheart.

  • Is there a right or wrong way? Nope. Each couple lives in their own universe. Each couple is so unique that what works for them is unique. There is no one way to do it, only what works for each couple. So, try things out in order to find what works for you.

  • How to achieve getting quality time together? First have a little meeting and brainstorm ideas on how to get what you need. Discuss ideas for what you could do together, what fun is to you, where you will need to do it, how you will share making arrangements, etc.

  • Become aware of considerations that you each have that need to be addressed (e.g., can't be too late or too early in the day, need for so many hours of sleep at night, special personal schedules, preferences, etc..).

  • No matter what comes up, find some time somewhere to schedule your 1st "quality time appointment". Don't leave this meeting until you've scheduled something, even if it is much shorter than you would have preferred it to be. Just get the ball rolling.

  • Either schedule a pattern of times together or agree to set the time for the second appointment before the end of the first 'time together. Don't let yourselves fall into inaction and let this focus slip by the wayside again.

  • If you just cannot schedule any time in the immediate week, then pick the best possible options under the current circumstances and agree to choose one within 24 hours.

Anything you could add here? What has worked for you two? We'd love to know it.


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