| Scheduling
Time Together
It is a time
in our world when most everyone is busier than they have ever
been or known anyone to be. We seem to all have a lot to accomplish
but there are still only 24 hours in a day. There are more choices,
more interests, more people and activities to balance than ever
before. Nothing is wrong, it just it just means it takes focus
and determination to keep it organized including scheduling time
together in a marriage
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THOUGHTS
ABOUT HOW TO FIND 'QUALITY TIME' TOGETHER:
- If
you are the type of couple where scheduling an appointment to
be together feels restrictive and doesn't work, don't do it.
You need spontaneity. You need the freedom of doing what you
want when you want it. If your individual lives support this
and your relationship needs are getting met, you have found
what works..
- For
others, it is more freeing to have an ‘appointment’
because you want to know what to expect and when. It is important
for you to know that at a certain time and place you can count
on seeing your sweetheart.
- Is
there a right or wrong way? Nope. Each couple lives in their
own universe. Each couple is so unique that what works for them
is unique. There is no one way to do it, only what works for
each couple. So, try things out in order to find what works
for you.
- How
to achieve getting quality time together? First have a little
meeting and brainstorm ideas on how to get what you need. Discuss
ideas for what you could do together, what fun is to you, where
you will need to do it, how you will share making arrangements,
etc.
- Become
aware of considerations that you each have that need to be addressed
(e.g., can't be too late or too early in the day, need for so
many hours of sleep at night, special personal schedules, preferences,
etc..).
- No
matter what comes up, find some time somewhere to schedule your
1st "quality time appointment". Don't leave this meeting
until you've scheduled something, even if it is much shorter
than you would have preferred it to be. Just get the ball rolling.
- Either
schedule a pattern of times together or agree to set the time
for the second appointment before the end of the first 'time
together. Don't let yourselves fall into inaction and let this
focus slip by the wayside again.
- If
you just cannot schedule any time in the immediate week, then
pick the best possible options under the current circumstances
and agree to choose one within 24 hours.
Anything you
could add here? What has worked for you two? We'd
love to know it.
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