THOUGHT PROVOKING DOWN-TO-EARTH PRACTICAL LAWS THAT YOU MIGHT
WANT TO CONSIDER BASING YOUR MARRIAGE CHOICES UPON
- YOU CANNOT MAKE CHANGES. You cannot make changes
in yourself or in your relationship. You can make choices for
yourself and in your relationship. You can flow with and accept
the changes that come. It is certain in life that changes will
come because everything is always always changing. Nothing stays
the same except change itself.
- YOU CAN HANDLE WHAT YOU ARE GIVEN. You are never
given more than you can handle however challenging something
is. Somehow someway you have the ability to do it. You can do
it. Its been set up for you to do it. Nothing is every
intended to penalize, punish or to capsize you. The predominant
force and fabric of the world is on your team, for you, not
- WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET. Nothing in itself
is intrinsically fulfilling. What anything is for us at any
given point in time is what we have put on it, in it or to it.
What we see is what it is. Everthing about your marriage or
your life has 100% to do with how you see it. Want it to be
different? See it differently. Want someone different, like
your parent? See her/him differently.
- THINKING IS OFTEN MISLEADING. Which is to say
that thinking is limited and not the whole picture. Thoughts
are like definitions. They are definitions. Thoughts define
things. They are not expansive by nature. They are confine meaning
to words. Because of this, such thoughts as about what is going
on in your relationship or with your partner, can mislead you.
Here's some advice? Don't count on your thoughts as the gospel
of anything. Here's a good test: Do you reach the same conclusion
when you check your thoughts against reality?
- TRUTH IS RELATIVE NOT ABSOLUTE. What was true
yesterday may not be true today. What is not true now may be
true in a minute from now. What is true for one person may not
be true for another person. What is true for you may not be
true for your partner. What you found yesterday in a particular
place may not be found in the same place today. A smart rule
in life: Don't attach yourself to anything however good
or predictable-appearing it may be.
- LOVE NOT SHOWN EQUALS NOTHING MUCH SHOWN AT ALL.
Showing your love is everything in marriage. Mind readers we
are not. Showing your love makes your love accessible, viewable,
reachable, noticeable, touchable. It doesnt matter what
you did or tried to do in going out of your way to show your
love; it matters that you went out of your way to show your
- E-MOTIONS ARE ENERGY IN MOTION. Emotions have
to do with movement. The nature of an emotion is that it needs
to move to be what it is. Emotions are not thinking, analysis
or the pragmatic approach in life. When someone is emotional,
don't count on getting anywhere by analyzing or talking to her/him
about what's going on. In fact, you might get a reaction that
you didn't intend to get. Rather, create encouragement, loving
support and ample space for your partner (or yourself) to experience
the emotion so it can move freely. Think about these things:
If something needs to move and it can't, can you imagine how
this affects things? One's health? And, when something that
has needed to move was prevented from doing so for a long time,but
now is allowed to, what an affect that has on things. On health.
- THIS IS ALL ABOUT GOOD. Relationships,
marriage and life are about good. How much more simple and to
the point could such a statement be? Suggestion: If life doesn't
feel good for you right now, re-read and contemplate, as deeply
as you can, the above laws. Do you agree with them? If so, don't
hesitate to let the law determine your future choices.
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